Friendship

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Everything is the two way street.  I scratch your back and you scratch mine. Most importantly, when there is consideration for friendship as desired by people out of  genuine interest in each other, naturally they are eager to create and maintain a long-lasting companionship that is comfortable. Most of all, they seriously consider it as a necessity to do away the burden of loneliness within; during the happy as well as the sad moments. With the growing number of friend’s circle, it is more important to uphold such honest relationships that are meaningful and substantial enough to influence almost all the dissimilarities of each friend in the circle respectively. However, so as to not hurt the one friend they so care, some friends tend to lie and some even exaggerate. Exceptionally, some turn out to be just pretend to agree or disagree, to whom the time or energy wasted is nothing but naught. But, so far, most normal people are truly honest and genuine when it comes to friendship, though they are not perfect, how can they be? If they are perfect, then the point of friendship in my opinion is not in itself necessary as even imperfect people in all the corner of the world do not need friendship to go on living as they want to.  Such people are comfortable with themselves and do not require outside companionship to cultivate and have the feeling of kinship, comfort or even that of belonging. They expect nothing out of people for they know that expectation breeds disappointments almost always and ultimately murders the rarest happiness one could have.

 

Thus, to expect things out of those who you call as friends when you yourselves cannot reciprocal in equal while in need, is selfish. What you are asking of them now, is against their interest and more importantly against the friendship so expected by you in itself and no such sane person is foolish enough to risk his/her neck for someone whose intention if not consciously is to use that person as a sacrificial lamb without invoking him/her the feeling of trust and understanding. And in the subject of friends, to consider friends as fake without the relevant evidence be it that which is recorded by the physical means (video, written documents verified by the authority) or be it the experience so truly ascertained is nothing more than mere speculation of a mind that is pessimistic. For me if the friend even if how imperfect s/he is, if he truly is genuine once in thousands time I will still consider him as true one.  However, there comes a question how can you truly ascertain that this time for the first time s/he is being genuine towards him/herself at foremost and in second towards you as a friend. And for that question this person has no answer that is as convincing as the question as so raised. However, is it also not so, that you will know when s/he is speaking the truth as you can easily predict the pattern of his/her behavior and expression and as such when s/he is truly mean what s/he is saying, then first it will definitely shock your core of being, however as a habit most of you will consider it nothing more than a scam or something equal to that.  You are too tired to go deep enough to ascertain its validity in terms of its values and intention as you are habitually fed up by the falsehood.  So friendship is all about timing and being there when one is so needed, without the  need of those personal judgments or prejudices, just being there is simply enough.  Furthermore, how painful it may seem a true friend should never lie to save his/her own skin.  For lie begets more lies to cover up the lie so first spoken. Life is too short to waste upon the people who are dishonest with themselves and in turn to their friends however we can also consider being not too judgmental too soon. Because for one thing, what time never does is lie as the mortals like us do. Anyway, If there are no true friends you can find whom you can truly trust or believe or just be with, there is always a corner you can reserve for yourself with a book in one hand and a hot coffee  in another. Trust me, they will not disappoint you, I can guarantee that much at least. :)